Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Feelings of grief I think

Today was incredibly painful for me.  Not physically, but emotionally.  I shared yesterday that I was given some potentially devastating news in terms of my graduate program to do school counseling.  I had so many unanswered questions that I decided to send a message to the personnel department to figure out what's going on.  To do the field work required for my master's degree with my district, I have to do it 24 hours per week over three full-time, 8-hour days for the duration of about a semester or so.  I will have to take a leave of absence during those days from my 40-hour per week job.  I am not permitted to do the hours during the summer.  Then, when the time comes to apply, I will have to quit my job and do counseling in another district for a minimum of two years before I will then be allowed to come back and counsel in the district where I have been working for 24 years.

The biggest problem I have is that I already work in the counseling department of a busy high school.  None of the years I have matter, though, not where this is concerned.  I have given so much to the district where I work.  I'm a product of the district and love the work I do.  All I want is to be able to have the opportunity to become a counselor, but that opportunity is just not there.  Not only that but I will have to quit something that I have been invested in for so long.  I have accrued so much time towards retirement, benefits and more. If I leave, that means I will probably have to also leave my doctor because my insurance will likely be through another provider.  It's just very, very difficult to deal with this.

Thankfully I work with some fantastic friends who helped me to look at the bigger picture.  If counseling is important to me, yes perhaps it may not look like what I thought it would but that might also be a blessing in disguise.  I just won't know until I stick my neck out and take the risk.  They are absolutely right ... the point is to be working with kids.  There are no guarantees with anything and so I have to walk forward in faith.

I do have a strong faith, but being a human being is also hard when we often times have fear.  Right now I have a lot of it.  I shed a lot of tears today over this, but I have been incredibly supported by so many people.  My supervisor reminded me of something that fits in with this situation just perfectly:

Be still and know that I am God.  That means I'm not in charge of the outcome.  In fact, I'm in charge of no part of any of this process.  I am responsible for doing my part, but after that it really is out of my hands.  As the day went on, the tears were less and less.  I went from sort of throwing my hands up in the air to stepping back, taking a breath and saying to myself that this is really going to be okay.  Obviously there are so many other battles to fight out there.  I'm not discounting how I feel, but just to get some perspective.

In other news, I received a call from the Positive Choice clinic to schedule my pre-op classes.  That was super fast!  I just saw the doctor yesterday and they were already calling me.  Unfortunately, I missed the call so I won't be able to schedule until tomorrow morning but at least I'm on my way.

A few weeks ago, I completed a sleep study with Kaiser for the sleep apnea.  I received a report in the mail today regarding the results.  I definitely have obstructive sleep apnea and they are recommending the use of the auto-titrating machine (APAP).  The report showed me averaging less than four hours of sleep per night.  No wonder I feel so flipping tired all of the time!  Because of my medical history with this, they do want me to meet with one of the board certified sleep specialists to discuss my diagnosis and any follow-up care I will need.  So I need to make an appointment in regards to that.  I swear, in the last year or two, I have seen more specialists, nurses and doctors for a lifetime.  These are additional reasons as to why I am pursuing the bariatric surgery.  While it's not a cure for all that ails me, it will most definitely help and that's all I've ever really wanted - to just feel healthier.


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